The couple's conversation

The couple's conversation

On the differences between men and women…

Let’s say a guy named Roger is attracted to a woman named Elaine.  He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time.  A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves.  They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.   And then, one evening when they’re driving home, a thought occurs to Elaine, and, without really thinking she says it aloud; “Do you realize that, as of tonight, we’ve been seeing each other for...

Is it too late for your relationship?

Is it too late for your relationship?

Lets face it, contemporary marriage is a mine field.  Fewer than half of those who enter this field cross it unscathed. As a therapist I have seen couples suffering with: addictions, affairs, anger and resentment, codependency, communication problems, control issues, depression, exhaustion, financial problems, loss of self, parenting problems, personality differences, separation, and stress. 

Couples today are beset by...

Help for troubled couples

Help for troubled couples

Mike and Laura (not their real names) came into my office anxiously — most couples do.  When I obtained their history, several patterns emerged.

Developmentally, they were stuck in differing stages.  Laura felt emotionally abandoned while Mike craved the freedom to get back to his life as it was before they met.  She was stuck at the beginning of the relationship, wanting the exclusive closeness couples share when they first fall in love.  He was out catching up with his friends and his hobbies, which he had ignored over the past 5 years.  She needed to...

Looking for love in all the wrong places

Looking for love in all the wrong places

Do you know people who experience their romances like “déjà vu”?  You know... over and over again?  You may see them regularly or periodically.  When one relationship breaks up and they get into another one.  Eventually, the similarities between this current relationship and the last one become glaringly real.  It seems your friend (or you) is in the same relationship, but with a different person (each time around).

The truth is...